THEORY AND PRACTICES
Building and living in Fantasy Worlds is a survival strategy, that means it was necessary for you to use those fantasy worlds to survive. That is all right, nor good nor bad. Having landed here it might be time to shift your relationship to the fantasy worlds that you live in. Fantasy Worlds are a much more common survival strategy as first thought. Mostly everybody is running around with some kind of fantasy. then we can start distinguishing how much of each persons life is based on fantasy. This is up to you to discover how much you live in fantasy. Warning: Do not give this job in the hands of your underworld. It will create a fantasy world about how much you are in fantasy worlds. This is a job for radical honesty with yourself, decontamination and the feedback and coaching of your team. It is a fantasy to think that you can do any of this work alone. You can not. The quality of the survival in fantasy is to much taking you out of reality that you could find your "X-on-the-map" on your own. If you thing now "yeah, yeah, but I can do it, I know I have fantasies and so I can do it and discover them, get out of them if I want" Your are lying to your self. And this is where fantasy starts.
Fantasy World is a strategy to protect you from reality, to protect you from the pain in your life and the horror that is really happening. It is based on unmet childhood needs & as those need have not been met and as you have been too small to face into reality as a child you created a second reality. Outside of the fantasy there is something uncomfortable, something painful for the box, gremlin and being happening. so uncomfortable that your rescue yourself into what you would WANT to be true. What you WANT to be the reality that you are living in. And the fantasy erases the horror that you can not handle, because if you would see what is actually going on(as the child) you would die. Later one your gremlin erases also simply the things that you don't want to hear. The things you do not want to identify with so you get to ignore them as you are living in fantasy anyways.
You might be thinking now: "but well if I would built a fantasy for me to live in then I would built it perfect, no? I would create it without problems and with no pain and the perfect relationships." That is another fantasy world. Human beings have really smart gremlins. Your gremlin will play in this fantasy worlds and will create it so that you suffer and complain and persecute(spelling?) and be a victim and just smash it all in, all the yummy low drama it can get will be implemented in the fantasy world as it is how you THINK the world works. It would be a bit to obvious for modern culture if you would be to happy, wouldn't it?
Fantasy becomes so real, so true that it is like a second layer of the world. Imagen the a few of the ocean or the mountains, fantasy layes over it as real as possible, you still see the mountains but there are some significant differences. It's slightly more pink, like putting a filter over it. Fantasy world has a different energetic vibration that what is real. something is a little off, for you in the fantasy it seems like nothing. Just a little weird. You can start scanning for those moments, those sensation when the world you are standing in looks, smells, feels, seems to be just a tiny bit off.
A life in fantasy or different fantasies at the same time means not having a grip on reality. With that comes the loss of the power of doing. It is impossible to do in fantasy. When I am taking about doing here, I am talking of “doing” in the sense of creation. You still have a box, your box knows how to brush your theeth, even though this can happen in fantasy as well. Ok, doing/ creating is not possible. With force yes, I can force stuff to happen, circumstances to occurs though it is not fully satisfying. It is not fully nourishing because it takes energy away. The price is that by all you are creating you are using your own bodies energy, the deep batteries of your 5-body system because there is no access to let the thing you create give you energy as they need to be forced into reality. One day, this energy will be empty; it will be so over the edge empty that it can not recharge itself. I never really understood what people mean if they say not to use my own energy, now I do because I ran out of it. Completely and fully.
Example: While living in phantasy I would imagen how i would read the book because I want to read the book but instead wasting so much time imagining “reading” that I would not actually take the book in my hand, I fulfilled the wish of reading by imagining it. The imagination would be really precise and go step by step like this: “I could take the book in my hand, it smells so good and its not even half a meeter away, its such a beautiful book, I am sad that it looks so used already, well but actually it is also great, so at least it is used. Even more sad those books who are untouched. Probably the next pages are amazing, I remember the last page, it was amazing. I am wondering how it will continue, so many possibilities.….” And so on and on and on. After that I would get pressured by my gremlin as I didn’t really read but also not wanting to do it anymore, being to drained by the imagination of it. Nothing happens. Even though nothing happens in my system I would keep the sensation of “I am reading the book” alive and it was so strong that I would not notice that actually already two weeks passed since I last read an actual page.
Being in fantasy protects you from your own world, from your wounds but there is another layer of price you pay for living in fantasy. Crashing out of it you will start to feel and with that no longer being able to avoid to look at the consequences of modern culture, of the behaviour of human beings, the pain of modern culture and you might discover this gigantic wish for a next culture, for a different culture that is not killing the planet. You might no longer ignore the anger you have about the world and about how land of Gaia gets raped over and over again. You can not pretend anymore that you would not care. You can not say “it is not so bad”. Because out of the fantasy the pain of trying to pretend is like fire cutting through your bodies, it becomes visible, "feelable" if you are lying to yourself. Your numbnessbar is going down. You can not pretend to have patience for people if you do not have it. You will feel the anger of not wanting to open another door or of wanting to do so. Your will not be able to adapt, if you do, you are back in your fantasy. This does not mean that you automatically have discovered all your dimensions in which you adapt. Do not go into the next fantasy. Slowly all those lies will become visible, you will recognise self-abuse and feel the impact of it. For the first time in this liquid state it helps to not think so much, just do. Do one thing after the other & keep feeling, keep beathing. Even if you cry longingly while using your physical body, let it happen. Do not stop.
To be able to get out of your fantasy worlds you need to built inner structure that is not based on survival, without inner structure which makes it possible for you to maintain in your body when "life is happening" you will not be able to get out of the fantasy worlds. Here are some exeriments to help you built inner structure:
First Experiment — Declaring Your Spaces:
Each space you enter, no matter with whom or what, you say out loud — using the power of declaration — what is happening right now. What is REALLY happening. Keep it simple.
Example: You are having a conversation where one person is listening and another person speaking. If you are the listener you say: “I am creating a space in which I am listening and you are speaking, unfolding possibilities.”
Declare all spaces, no matter if it is an underworld space of gossiping or a space of declaring possibilities. Say it as it is, without stories, without judgment.
This experiment creates a reality check from within yourself about what you are really creating. Once you have that clarity, the fuzzy low drama stories your Gremlin makes up about the spaces you create cannot hook you anymore.
Second Experiment — Reality Check of Doing:
Use your physical hands to create something from the beginning to the end. Choose a material like wood, clay or wool and use it to build a bench, chair, bedside table, scarf, pot, etc.
Do not use an already existing plan or pattern, instead make your own, use your tools and let the process nourish you. By doing so you get instant visible feedback if the move you are making is working or not — if you’re putting a nail into wooden boards, you will see right away if the nail is straight or not.
Third Experiment — 5-Minute-Cleaning:
Taking care of your physical space and creating Drala in your home creates the possibility of magic happening in your live. To learn how to calibrate physical energy while creating Drala, carry a watch with you and whenever you are in between things — resting, reading, cooking, writing an article, working, etc. — you take up to 5 minutes to do one task that you see in your physical space.
Does cleaning those cups take less than 5 minutes? Yes — go ahead and do it. No — does cleaning half the cups take less than 5 minutes? Yes — go ahead and do it.
After five minutes, you stop and move on to the thing that you want to do.
This experiment helps calibrate your energy management: it teaches your system that creation doesn’t need to drain you. You will find out that there is always something “to do”, but if you hold space for it, it doesn’t run you over.
other parts to include:
"a new life - part about how it can go after starting to crash" - "examples of fantasies?" - "poems, pictures" -
"Potential is not fantasy but thinking that anybody will use their potential is fantasy."
What do I have to do in order for people to believe that I am a good _____? (father, lover, man, woman, friend, teacher, coach, electrician, writer, trainer, spaceholder, healer, etc.)
Your answers to this question would be what you would use to create a fake identity to show to the world, so that your real fears do not get addressed. For example, you might be afraid that you will not recieve money, recognition, respect, love, or be valued by others if you would simply be yourself without any of the show, or that you would be punished, shouted at, and abused for being 'not enough', or 'too much'.
For me it was, what do I have to do to be a good Trainer? Which exercise or distinction do I need to bring so that people would say, wow! what an amazing Trainer they are!
Because underneath was my fear of having a bad reputation, of everything collapsing, of being seen as a fraud, boring, useless, and then I would need to quit being a Trainer.
And if I would research this question, I would start to create an identity separate from myself; the 'good Trainer' identity. It has its own voice, posture, attitudes. It still has all of my knowledge, experience and distinctions, but my Gremlin uses them to protect the 'good Trainer' identity, so they all get used to create a more sophisticated lie instead of being used for empowerment and transformation of others.
Identities become fantasy worlds when the purpose of the identity is to 'look good', and how it looks is that you actually create a fantasy version of yourself around yourself, and you locate your inner compass in that fantasy.
THE FANTASY WORLD OF HOPE
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Things are not gonna change magically. Things do change all the time. There is a double edge to Hope.
On one side, Hope is what you count on when things are not what you expected them to be and you hope that in the future it'll be different.
On the other side, Hope is the change that you want to see in the world. Both of them are things created from nothing.
More specifically Hope is created from assumptions and expectations of what the world is and isn't or should or shouldn't be like. In this video I discovered that Hope is ingrained so deeply inside of the programming of my Thoughtware, that it was quite the liquid maneuver to talk about it.
I noticed that it has its own self defense mechanism, that I couldn't touch it without touching what I considered "myself", which revealed a part of my box or my survival strategy. I discovered that Hope is a doorway to liquid state and growing consciousness when used with the context of Radical Responsibility.
From this point of origin, "hope" distills into love, transformation, change, clarity about my life's purpose, depending on what time cycle im in (present moment, minute cycle, daily cycle, weekly cycle, monthly cycle, yearly cycle, lifetime cycle).
When I use Hope as a victim, or when hope is solid/fixed/crystalized, I'm avoiding responsibility because I'm letting something else other than myself here and now open up to discover what that Hope is.
STARR - The (Crashing of my) Fantasy World of Hope by Anne-Chloe https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n8XUuauixek
Box Technology http://boxtechnology.mystrikingly.com/
Hope, Nostalgia, Denial, Obsession, Projections, Complaining, Expectations, Positionality, Lying, Reasons, Beliefs, Prejudices, Justifications, Numbness, Resentment, Assumptions, Conclusions, Deception, Dark Secrets, Blame, Melancholy, Recklessness, Irresponsibility, Guilt, Hubris, Arrogance, Superiority, Depression, Exclusivity, Self Cannibalism, Shame, Aggression, Really Good Reasons, Despair, Worry, Revenge...
All of these and more are building-block Elements of Fantasy Worlds.
"What's your poison?" asks the bartender as you saunter up to the counter at the Fantasy World Bar. "We have it all for you, on tap! And we take credit cards!"
FANTASY WORLDS AND YOUR GREMLIN
Clearly, this is an Experiment in Fear. If Fear is frightening for you, it might be useful to participate in a Fear Club before doing this Experiment.
The Experiment is simple, and scary. Bring yourself and your Beep! Book to your PTeam (or to some other awake and dangerous group of people) and ask for a half hour of group intelligence time to write down without question what other people estimate and perceive the Fantasy Worlds that your life is built around. For example, here are some domains you can look into:
• About the reality of politics
• About having enough money or not
• About being beautiful or not
• About being a good person or not
• About being friends with your friends
• About your parents and childhood being good or bad
• About whether you have a nice house or not
• About what career you should be doing
• About your 10 year life plan
• Your retirement plans
• About how your parenting should be
Ask your Team to be clear and specific about what they perceive. Yes, it is true that the Fantasy World they can see is often a projection. They can see it because they have the same Fantasy World. Do not make this into a discussion. This is a research Experiment and the result will be a long list of possible Fantasy World bubbles that you have been living inside of for a good part of your life. Please note that a Fantasy World is not good or bad or right or wrong. It is a survival strategy and since you survived, the Fantasy World has served its purpose. The question arising now is, is it now time for you to let go of a Fantasy World and enter a closer bond with the place that you can actually take your next steps from. 2 Matrix Points.
A number of people, especially people doing Healing and Transformational work, carry a Fantasy World that, after enough Healing and Initiation and Transformation, they will arrive. You will arrive at this point where everything is okay. Which would probably include not having big Emotions about anything. The purpose of this Experiment is to look into: what does this Fantasy World of 'Everything is Okay' look like?
This is best done in a Team, either in pairs or groups of 3, where you have your eyes closed and you look into this wish, this hope, that you will finally get there. The 'there' part. Tell people - go into this place. Make it as if you are already there. You are there, and tell the people how you would be and how are the other people. How are you behaving and how are they behaving because everything is okay.
Nobody will ever blame me, I will always do the right thing at the right time. How does it go for you? How does it go in your Fan
Hint about this: there are 2 main categories of Boxes.
There are 'I am not okay' Boxes, where the main survival experience is 'I am not okay'.
And then there are 'I am okay' Box. Where the main survival experience is 'I am great, I am wonderful, I am okay'.
Both of them are bullshit. Both of them are survival Fantasy Worlds.
The point is - being alive means having Feelings. Being alive means being in the unknown. Being alive means evolving, not achieving a Fantasy steady state of perfection and stability.
Feel into the emotions that it actually creates to have this Fantasy World, or beating yourself up, threatening yourself, manipulating.
And what benefit? You have reasons to be abused because
The proof is: make a selfie video and share about how it is to have a Fantasy World about getting
In your first meeting with your 3cell, start preparing yourselves to make your journey into the shadow world, which means just to explore those parts of yourself that have been suppressed or repressed or ignored or confused - kept out of your awareness.
Arrange so that one person at a time, in this case you, goes first. The other two people are lifelines back to the Ordinary.
A journey into the shadow lands is Extraordinary. Because it is done consciously, on purpose, using your conscious Will.
The main part of this exercise is to choose 3 Fantasy Worlds you identified int he first Experiment, and, 1 at a time, go to the point in your life when you initiated or made a contract to sub,it yourself to a Fantasy World.
You can imagine a FW like a vampire cloud, which gets its existence from your Belief. When you believe in the FW it gives the FW some of your energy and that is how it stays alive.
So e.g. the FW that the good strong noble handsome holy man will ride up on a white horse and rescue the damsel and take her off to a life and luxury and pleasure and power on the castle on the hill for ever with a cherry on top and lots of whipped cream - if you Notice in your daily interactions, you will see that there is part of your attention and energy flowing into your FW, to keep it alive.
The experience is this wish, this longing.
The original purpose to journey into your shadow world to find the original contract to have made this FW to save your life.
Find out why you did it. And also which part of reality you got disconnected from, when you took on the cloud like fantasy parasite in your life.
Switch in the next meeting.
3 Matrix Points
You and other people often say: 'I want to be connected with you'. Just in that sentence, you live in a FW that you think you know what connection means, you think you know that other people agree with you about what connection means, that they have the same definition, and you live in a FW that you are not already connected with other people and that they are not connected with you.
Read the 'evolution of relating' website. Each step in the evolution of relating is a different quality of connection and intimacy.
Be radically honest with yourself about what you mean, right now with 'I want to connect with you'. The question is: what do you mean? What do you want?
What are the unmet needs of each of your 5 Bodies and Ego States? Including your Gremlin, Demon, Child and Parent Ego State.
After you have listed those unmet needs, you might start getting a clearer picture of the FW of connection that you live in.
And you have been trying to force other people to meet you in your FW of connection. Or you have been trying to manipulate people to fulfill your unmet needs, instead of saying would you hold my hand, read me a story, drink a tea with me, instead of saying what you want.
This is extremely damaging for any kind of relating. So often, both people in the relating live in some kind of FW about what it is. For the continuation of the Experiment, for an entire week, pay attention to when your FW of connection is at work, driving you crazy, probably triggered by your unmet needs.
A bonus Experiment is to notice, to pay attention to other people's fantasy worlds of relating, trying to manipulate you to fulfill your unmet needs. And consider saying: I am not available for being manipulated, what do you really want? Can you say what you want?
2 Matrix Points.
Fot eh next 10 days, focus your Self Ob ont he stories, criticisms, judgments, jealousies, outrage, not okay-ness stories in your mind that come up for you about other people who seem to be successfully living in their FW. For example, you see a business man who lives in the FW that they are successful or rich. Or eg you see a professor or a teacher that has written a book that they are important famous
Athlete that just won the olympics and identify your FW about their FW that you might think their FW is true or real when actually it is only a FW.
Part of your FW is that you might want to be like them or might not want to be like them and in ant case you are wrong.
The way to identify your FW about their FW is: write each one down in your Beep! Book. This is an Experiment in self observation. It is not an experiment in beating yourself up or making yourself wrong.
Write an article about something like Meta Fantasy Worlds. 'My Meta FW'. Make it as clear and specific with your examples , as if you are a scientist studying the phenomena of Meta FW. The purpose of the article is awareness expansion of the reader so that they can consider their own Meta FW.
3 Matrix Points.
Put link to article as proof.
Logo: Sword of Clarity.
The E is: arrange with a partner to set aside 4 hours to enter the shopping zone or downtown or the streets of ordinary pleasantville of life (link to movie pleasantville). Bring your video recorders and shoot 5 to 15 second long segments of a FW in action, all forms of marketing and advertising use a FW as the bait to trap you into what they are trying to sell you. Your job is to hunt down and capture on your video camera short videos of a 100 campaigns, trying to capture your heart and soul into their FW so you buy what they are selling.
This also includes the dentist and supposedly Edgeworking. For a special part of hunting, enter the special territory of new age cafe or yoga centre and examine the flyers and announcements for worktalks, talks, experiences, ayahuasca experiences where they dangle the FW and put make up on the FW to attract the vampire's victims.
Take your 5-15 videos, put them all together into one video and then do a monologue of your Sword of Clarity speaking to name the hook that is being used to set the FW in your heart and soul with 30 percent rage from the Clarity.
That will be a successful hunt. Post the link in the Proof Section.
3 Matrix Points.
This FW is pervasive and omnipresent. Ths effect of this FW is to put you asleep and be naive about the reality of what Human Beings are, which is a high number of different parts smashed together (logo: parts).
One of their parts is Being, which is pretty neutral. One of their parts is their Box, their Gremlin, their Child Ego state, Parent Ego State, Bright Principles.
Part that talks to the mother, the police, the child, the dog.
Each of these parts have different needs, different vocabulary, different fantasy world, different purpose.
To fall asleep with the FW that people are good or that the person you are talking to is really the person you are talking to, as if you have no other parts, makes you completely acailable for abuse, betrayal and revenge. And then you wonder why this happened to you.
This Experiment is, for 1 week, to increase your Conscious Fear about this clarity of 'people have parts'. so that you can notice when someone is talking to you, which part of them is talking to you.
That you do not make the assumption that the part is talking to you, is the only part they are and that will be always the only part that talks to you.
That they do not have 20 other parts that are completely contradictory.
To test your theory, dial up another part of the person that you are talking to.
Find ways to talk to the different parts of the person. By navigating space into other conditions and other quality of space, where there is competition or outrage or cowardliness or revenge or sweet loving care, all these spaces, and see if you dial up another part in the other person.
Poem by Charles Bukowski
”– you know, I’ve either had a family, a job,
something has always been in the
I’ve sold my house, I’ve found this
place, a large studio, you should see the space and
for the first time in my life I’m going to have
a place and the time to
no baby, if you’re going to create
you’re going to create whether you wor
k 16 hours a day in a coal mine
you’re going to create in a small room with 3 children
while you’re on
you’re going to create with part of your mind and your
you’re going to create blind
you’re going to create with a cat crawling up your
the whole city trembles in earthquake, bombardment,
flood and fire.
baby, air and light and time and space
have nothing to do with it
and don’t create anything
except maybe a longer life to find
~ Charles Bukowski, from The Last Night of the Earth Poems
Read this poem 5 times to different people in different situations.
Use each time you read it, you build a component of a detector, a FW detector of a FW 'when I hajve enough time..'
'when I have enough air, life, time space', then, I will..
I will paint, write, sing, dance, I will go to Kathmandu.
Each time you read the poem you build a part of this detector to detect these FW when I get enough time, love, Possibility, then I will
but particulary with time, when I get enough.
And that thing is drinking your life energy up.
FW are part of an energetic context that devours your life energy to live.
Don't worry, if you exit yourself from the ecology as a food supply, the FW will not starve to death because there are plenty of zombie people out there that they can feed on. Do not worry that you are contradicting Buddhist dogma by starving different Beings from their food, torturing little Beings
You walk around and see this quivering little starving FW and think oh have a little bit of my energy.